I never know what to say to my Tinder matches. No matter how many friends I consult or how excited I am about the match, I find myself struggling to come up with the right way to strike up a conversation. “Hey” feels like not enough, but asking someone to coffee immediately seems overeager. It feels nearly impossible to strike the right balance of expressing interest but not appearing too interested before you really get to know them. Luckily, Nicole Moore, a love and relationship coach, has some helpful advice. And she’s extra qualified to give it because she met her husband on Tinder. Here’s Moore’s advice for the best way to start a conversation on Tinder or another dating app.
Pinpoint a Specific Detail
Rule number one, according to Moore, is to tailor your message to your match. “The best thing to do when you match with someone you’re interested in on a dating app like Tinder is to comment on something very specific that you noticed about the other person’s profile,” Moore told POPSUGAR.
Look through their profile and find something, anything, that live escort reviews Richmond VA you are interested in or have in common with the person. Of course, bios are a great place to draw inspiration, but you can also take note of Spotify artists they linked or details in their photos. “If someone doesn’t have a ton of text in their profile, comment on one of their pictures and ask them a question,” Moore said. “For instance, if someone has a picture out in nature, ask them about that picture and what their day was like on the day it was taken. If someone has a picture of them out at a coffee shop, ask them what their all-time favorite coffee order is.”
Whichever detail stands out to you, bring that up in your first message, and your match will feel like you’ve made a small investment in them. “All people want to feel special and noticed,” Moore said. “When you point out a small detail about someone’s profile that you loved, it instantly creates rapport and shows you’re not looking at them like they’re just an option.” Making your message specific to your match shows them that you paid attention to their profile, and it’s a flattering step that not everyone takes. [Read more…]